"What others think of me?"

Remember that funny moment when sitting in a restaurant you spent some time staring that South Indian dosa in your platter thinking whether to eat it with your hands or with those sword-like cutlery . But after giving a long thought, you make your mind and stick to those quirky sophisticated folks and knife holding them tight as you are concerned that-

                                                              

"what others would think of me if .....??.......??......"

                                                                     

Though nobody in this world pay least heed to what others is doing but still this unwanted concern has become so much a part of our everyday lives.

And there's a huge list of do's and don'ts forever and wherever we go. Therefore, it seems as if our entire looks, appearance, lifestyle, eating habits, behavior, language and even how we walk and how we talk entirely depends on what others think of us?

From day to night the one and only question that haunts our mind is-
"What others think of me”? So whether we are on social networking site or in real life situation, this question has become a major threat to our happy lives.

                                               

                                   

    

People often spend their days, editing and uploading their perfect profile picture on face book. As they are more concerned about what others think of them. They wanted to look picture-perfect and thus, keep on staring their photos asking themselves whether they are looking bold or beautiful, slim or fat, etc.etc. They give least attention to the most important fact that-
what they think and feel about themselves....??
I really feel bad for you people who leave your own happiness for the pleasure of others.

You are in a way inviting others saying-
hey you out there, I give you an official right to decide my life.

Thus, it's you who actually loses pleasure in what you think about yourself and all the time depresses yourself on the thought of what others think of you?

What an unfortunate sad story of yours is this? 

Can you please tell me? Who are others to decide what your life would be?

Give away such kind of attitude forever and rediscover the feeling of “I” in you.

   

"I" am "myself" that "real self" and no one on this earth can alter my true definition of me, mine, myself as it is eternal.

Let the people think what they want? Why you are concerned? Let them believe what they like. Why there's need for you to ruin your happiness for the sake of others?

As nobody can ever change other's way of thinking and the reason is -"every individual have his own way of seeing things."So howsoever good or bad you are people always have something to say.
Remember that other day, when you were not properly dressed and all of a sudden met some of your close ones.  There was lot of hesitation in your attitude. Though he/she didn't notices your appearance but still on returning home you immediately ran towards the mirror and checking your clothes asked yourself- “what would they think of me? I am so badly dressed today.”  In such instance you are not really embarrassed because you didn't dressed properly but what really haunts you is what others would think of you?

Unfortunately, this tricky question "what others think of me?" is really spoiling the real "me" and making it complicated. Thus, I really want to ask-

Where is that real "me" signifying your truthful appearance, goodness and simplicity free from all kinds of artificiality. Where is that uniqueness in you that don’t even care of what others think of you?

                                             

                                             

And one similar case is when you see that red swollen pimple on your face, you strictly deny going out of your place just because you are concerned what other's would think of you?

And not just this, on one similar occasion is when you score low percentage in your class/college; you keep on hiding your score-card and never wanted your bad marks to be disclosed in-front of others. Such attitude is not because you are really ashamed that you didn't worked hard but it's just because you are really afraid what others might think of you? And would treat you as a failure and dump for sure.

                                                                

                               

It’s time to re-discover the true essence of life existing in you. So search for yourself, the real “you” and tell yourself whatever you are today is real “you”. And thus, looking in the mirror speak confidently to yourself-" yes, it's "me". Yeah, that real "self" and nobody on this earth could ever copy this real "me" in my personality as it is eternal and exclusively my creation.

So from today, say good-bye to this fake virtual world of artificiality based on others liking, thinking and feed backs. Rather it’s now a golden moment to create a real happy world of truth and innocence, spreading smiles illuminating million lives.

Author : Deepshikha Gupta